Often in this column, you will see stories of kindness highlighted, as we strongly believe that a little light can dispel a lot darkness in the world. And at other times, you will see us highlighting to stay back from potential trouble, or harm - as some people are better left alone. Some of you have asked what is going on here. The messages seem a bit mixed.
This can best be explained by understanding energies that make the world tick. On one level is the energy of kindness, unconditionally helping others without any self interest. On the other side is energy of discipline, a stricter view of the world, but one no less valid. But the ultimate view and goal is the synthesis of the two. What is this synthesis ? It is Compassion. And What is compassion? It is kindness within discipline. You see kindness by itself, has the potential for abuse, as people will take advantage of your kindness, or won't do the personal work needed for their growth. Discipline without kindness is heartless, which goes against God's intention of this world.
As an example, you are a teacher (manager) and have a student (employee) who is falling behind and fails a test. You have three options. The kindness school says to give the persona another chance and then chance. The discipline school states that he should have studied harder, and if he fails, he deserves to fail. Synthesizing the two is the best answer. See what was happening in the person's life. If the person has been under difficult times, be helpful and supportive. If the person has just been slacking off, he probably needs a wake up call - which might still involve another chance but with very tough guidelines.
We judge ourselves by our intentions, while we judge others by their actions. So if you want others to be compassionate with you (and none of us are perfect) than this is the best approach. Not to allow others to take advantage of your kindness, but not to be so strict as heartless.
This is Rex Barker, CS (Compassion Seeker) reminding you that life requires a healthy balance of head and heart. Feel with your heart, but think with your head.