You and yours have my compassion! Since facts cannot be changed, one might speculate that "you will have a totally new home, eventually"!Not much left of that former loving home. I have my electricity and water supply on seperate electric meters from my house, so one could fight a fire if any of the buildings caught on fire. And of course one would have to be home or have a great neighbor to start the control. I guess what you need now is $$..time and a large backhoe with a blade. I've had a terrible house fire myself, when the dollars were short. My insurance was good, so that helped ease the transition.