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I'm going to need some help from everyone tomorrow morning.

Angus Cattle Shower

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Well, long story short, one of my friends (guy) ended a relationship with one of my best friends (girl). He then staretd dating one of my old public school friends. I diddn't much care for her, especially when she got mixed in with the wrong crowd and started drinking. Anyways, back to my story. After they broke up, he has been degradign her in front of the whole school, and verbally abusing her. I don't know why, but she decided to tell noone but me about this. He is on my hockey team. Because she is a really close friend, and she had just lost her father. She has been under the weather a lot, and is starting to break down quite oftenly.

So tomorrow I am going to tune him in good and proper, both on the ice and off, she is coming to the rink and is going to be there when I talk to him. He was a friend, and Idon't have many here, ( on ranchers I do though ;))and Im kinda scared, but once a guy has done those things to a lady, they are going to have to get what they deserve, I got someone to trade me spots for the day (Im defence tomorrow). I'm just a little afraid of what might happen, I know Im doing the right thing, because when I prayed to the LORD the other night, afterwards, I just knew I had to do this.

Any help with this at all would be appreciated.
 

the_jersey_lilly_2000

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If you feel you hafta confront him, it'd be alot better done off the ice than on the ice. Talk to him.....explain that it's not right to degrade her. Lay it on the line, but not phyisically.
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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Ooh, my shoulder has had a few words for him for the last while, It's a contact sport, remember? lol. When it has gotten to this point, I think he is going to have to hurt the same way that she did.
 

Mrs.Greg

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Does he have a sister? If so ask him how he'd feel if someone talked to her or about that way.I HATE gossip,and mean and thoughtless behavior :evil: My grampas favorite saying and means so much..Treat people the way you want to be treated,if everyone learned to live like that we'd have somthin specaial
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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No, he doesnt have a sister. It;s getting to the point that the world needs a drink. If we would all just ebhave ourselves and we could all just get along, then we wouldn't have to have war, or have this happen to good people.
 

Mrs.Greg

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To be honest I'd be a little worried about this young lady,a big loss for her then being hurt by her peers....best you could do is be a great friend to her Kid :!:
 

Faster horses

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One word of caution, ACS. Make sure it's true...look before you leap...all that good stuff...

Good luck to you!!

You could wind up her HERO...ya know that don't ya?
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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Denny, I would, but he has more friends than me, an dI knew I had an advantage today.

FH, I know it's true, I saw it a few times, and heard fo it a whole bunch more.

He spent a lot of time on his a$$ today, either I got in behind him or I just ran him over, finally he got mad and grabbed me by the back, threw what he called a 'punch' an dI hit him harder, knocked him onto his butt and skated away. We talked to him afterwards, he was mad through and through, and after calling her a b---- a few times i cut in and told him to leave or deal with me first. He left. I just hope it never comes to this again.

FH, about the hero, what do you mean? lol. I'm a little slow onthe ball right now, i gotta go take a tylenol cause my head hurts.
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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Again, confused.

It's Recreational, show up when you can, and its all for fun. lol.

But, from what I have seen and how depressed and what was happening to her, I thought I would help her take care of it, she seems to be scared of him, once I got her going, it became interesting very fast. I got the brother to carry my bag out to the van, stayed and talked to her for a while, diddn't really say much, she was sobbing a fair bit, so I did the one thing Grampa told me before he passed away-When someone is down, a hug wuill do more than any word. I gve her a hug and when I said I had to go cause we have to get ready for today, she just whispered a thanks, it made me feel all tingley inside. lol.
 

nonothing

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You ever stop and think maybe this dude was hurt by the relationship?I do not condon name calling or dragging out personal information,but why did he do that..To do that with out being provoked or hurt seems odd to me.In 2 months this will be over and the names will change,but you punching out a friend will change things forever.I agree with Mrs..Greg on this one,be a friend to this girl by helping her handle her tragic setbacks..Beating this guy to a pulp will really only cause you grief.If you hurt him to bad she may even get mad at you....talk to him in private and point out how he is being...If that fails treat him in kind,call him out in public for his actions..Beating him up will only leave you with sore knuckles and not much else.....JMO
 

IL Rancher

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NR is basically saying with the relationship, at least I am guessing, getting between two exes is not a good place to be because you don't have the whole story. You have heard her side but how much of his...I am sure the girl is hurting over the passing of her father but maybe something ugly happened in the relationship that you don't know about. Doesn't make it right but maybe he is pissed about something. Just a thought..

Kind of like the third guy in in a hockey fight is going to get the worst penalty.


Oh, and this situation is the exact sittuation in which rebound relationships are made of... Careful that being a friend doesn't turn into her wanting more because of how much she is hurting..
 

Work Hard and Study Hard

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Angus Cattle Shower said:
Again, confused.

It's Recreational, show up when you can, and its all for fun. lol.

But, from what I have seen and how depressed and what was happening to her, I thought I would help her take care of it, she seems to be scared of him, once I got her going, it became interesting very fast. I got the brother to carry my bag out to the van, stayed and talked to her for a while, diddn't really say much, she was sobbing a fair bit, so I did the one thing Grampa told me before he passed away-When someone is down, a hug wuill do more than any word. I gve her a hug and when I said I had to go cause we have to get ready for today, she just whispered a thanks, it made me feel all tingley inside. lol.

You are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to sensitive, I don't condone what the boy may have been doing but I don't think you know the whole story. You probably should stay out of the mess, frankly you seem to take things to an emotional level that is a little freaky. I think your seen as a traitor and a tattletale to these boys and that is not a good postition to be in.
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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I talked to him too, not nearly as much, but he dumped her, and said she was a b*^%h. I guess it just upsets me that someone will speak this disrespectly.

I diddnt beat him to a pulp, only a few hits in the hockey game. A few Hard hits. that's it. Then I told him why I did that. I'm sure he diddnt get hurt in there, shesure got hurt when he said those things.

WHSH, thanks for the concern, but in case you guys havent noticed, it doesn't really effect me on what others think about me, I know I did the right thing. A Traitor? I just told him that he had to cut it out, they have to know that when something happens liek that, then they will have to deal with the consequences.

He spoke to her this way, I Don't think that it matters what happens next, since we were fairly close he may realize that what he did was wrong.

We all left on good terms, I talked to him a while ago, and he acted normally, just tried to get me to go to the poker rally, but I had a birthday party to take care of :p:p
 
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