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Mean Moms

jigs

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> Mean Moms
>
> Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that
> motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me: I loved you
> enough . . . to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would
> be home.
>
> I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new best
> friend was a creep.
>
> I loved you enough to make you go pay for the bubble gum you had taken and
> tell the clerk, "I stole this yesterday and want to pay for it."
>
> I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your
> room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.
>
> I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my
> eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.
>
> I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your actions
> even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.
>
> But most of all, I loved you enough . . . to say NO when I knew you would
> hate me for it. Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I
> won them, because in the end you won, too. And someday when your children
> are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell
> them.
>
> Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mom in the whole
> world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal,
> eggs, and toast. When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to
> eat sandwiches.
>
> And you can guess our mom fixed us a dinner that was different from what
> other kids had, too.
>
> Mom insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were
> convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were
> doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour,
> we would be gone for an hour or less.
>
> We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labor
> Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to
> cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel
> jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to
> do.
>
> She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing
> but the truth. By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds and
> had eyes in the back of her head.
>
> Then, life was really tough!
>
> Mom wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had
> to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else could
> date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were 16.
>
> Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids
> experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing
> other's property or ever arrested for any crime.
>
> It was all her fault.
>
> Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing
> our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.
>
> I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have
> enough mean moms!
 

katrina

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I tell my kids that it is a MOm's job to stick her nose into there business. To imbarrasse them on every occassion..... And even thou moms may act dumber than a box of rocks.... She really isn't.....
 

peg4x4

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One of my kids theratened to call CPS on me....told her fine,handed her the phone------friend of mine did have the kid call CPS caust grandma spanked him---when the Deputy found out the spanking was cause he'd stuffed the toster with paper and turned it on he was told I'd have spanked you harder...
 

the_jersey_lilly_2000

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I'm thankful that I had a mom like that (and a dad) and all my relatives tell me I get more n more like my mom every day......I just smile, n say, Thank You...one of the best compliments anyone could ever give me.
 

Haytrucker

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My folks are getting their affairs in order, and on paper thank goodness. While in the middle of that my mother tried to apoligize for not having anything (material) to pass on down. I tried my best to explain that our upbringing was a more than adequate inherintance. Life was hard when I was young, and guess what. It hasn't improved much. Maybe one or two more zeroes on the bottom line.
Man, I must be getting old, if I can appreciate getting raised in such a harsh environment.
 

Hanta Yo

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Haytrucker said:
My folks are getting their affairs in order, and on paper thank goodness. While in the middle of that my mother tried to apoligize for not having anything (material) to pass on down. I tried my best to explain that our upbringing was a more than adequate inherintance. Life was hard when I was young, and guess what. It hasn't improved much. Maybe one or two more zeroes on the bottom line.
Man, I must be getting old, if I can appreciate getting raised in such a harsh environment.

No sir, I don't know how old you are but you learned that you aren't the Center of the Universe (as most kids nowadays have the attitude of me, me, me, me, me, me) and it scares me these kids are our HOPE for the future????
 

Jason

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What's worse is the me me me kids are being raised by those who say they are glad they had "mean moms".

My kids are a throw back, I am not giving them everything, they have to work for it. However I am trying to be more reasonable than my folks were. They did lots of stuff with no real explinations. I talk with my girls about everything.
 

Hanta Yo

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What's worse is the me me me kids are being raised by those who say they are glad they had "mean moms".


Can you give me a few examples? The parents I know who have made their kids self-centered brats are 1) Divorced (if you get my drift) 2) Wasn't going to let their kids go through what they had to 3) Women libbers from the 60's and 70's who had kids and let babysitters and preschool and nannies raise their kids because they could prove to society that women were just as good in the workplace (at the expense of their children).

No way no where have I heard they were glad they had "mean moms". Just the opposite. My parents were tough on me, no doubt being the firstborn of three daughters, and all I heard was "Don't do as I do, do as I say", and "Don't question me, young lady, I'm your MOM (or DAD) I took that lock, stock and barrel until I grow up and society has moved along enough to tell me I can't "spank" my kids, schools can't "discipline" kids anymore. Society has given kids the power and I'm not swallowing that one very good.

Maybe my parents weren't totally perfect in raising me (nobody's perfect) I still have values that have gone up in smoke in many adults my age.

I'm glad you have conversations with your daughters. Since I've Been There Done That, don't ever let that fool you. Girls are quite crafty, :wink: they can appear an angel to your face until you read that note meant for their boyfriend (fell out of their notebook), or have a cop show up on your doorstep because your daughter has been doing shenanigans on the internet.

I'm going to stop this sermon as I can go on and on and on and on and on...

'Nuff said.
 

CattleArmy

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Very good post!

A word I hated to hear from my Mom yet taught me a ton about life was the word NO. By growing up realizing the world did not revolve around me and that everything one wants couldn't be had in fact prepared me for the real world on my own.
 

Jason

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I was raised by fairly strict parents, I'm pretty sure my brothers were raised the same. :p

I never had anything given to me by my parents as they had next to nothing to give. My maternal grandmother gave us clothes and stuff.

My wife was raised by don't look don't tell parents that pretended to be strict but basically let the kids do what they wanted. The only values they got at home was get a job with a bi-weekly paycheque. Fortunately she adopted an older couple that taught her some good values.

I could see where it could be easier to just let the kids get away with stuff, but I know they would pay for it later in life.

My brothers let their kids walk all over them, pretty decent kids, but some traits like not knowing the value of a buck. Maybe that's the city influence too, but not all.
 

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