Lots of good, caring parents and good points made.
However, it seems too little weight is put on the fact that kids are TAUGHT by everyone from school teachers to Sunday school teachers that they have the right to "report" parents for "abuse".
People employed in certain jobs are REQUIRED by law to report even SUSPECTED abuse.
I know a set of good caring parents whose "difficult" daughter lied in reporting her parents as "abusive" and they went through hell to settle it. They also feared it happening again, and lost control. Result: now in mid twenties, the daughter FINALLY is turning into a decent individual........but she did get pregnant before marriage, and went through some years of not caring properly for the children.
There are children, some of them extremely bright, with very good parents doing everything correctly, who will still have out-of-control tantrums when denied a treat, or even for no apparent reason they can articulate, or when tired, excited and happy, or confused about their hectic schedules. That doesn't mean the parents, or the child, are wrong or have a problem. It seems to require parents very dedicated to doing things right. Sometimes that is to just tough it out, removing the child to privacy when possible. Then, when it is over, I've seen such children embarrased, contrite, and even apologetic. With love and prayers and firm discipline, the tantrums are outgrown, usually by age 8 or 10. Parents of children like that deserve a very special place in heaven, IMO.
Judging, or even criticizing any parent whose child/ren 'pitch a fit' on occasion, or even frequently, serves no good purpose. Nor should one allow a tantrum prone child to run over the rest of the world. Tough calls!
The thing I'm most certain of: most parents want to do well by their kids, and many times it is just by the Grace of God that kids turn out well more than anything parents do right or do wrong. And when they don't turn out......parents are not always to blame. Even kids who truly are abused know right from wrong and are capable of taking the right path in their own lives. Not all who were abused repeat the abuse with their own families. Wonder why that is?
MRJ