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loomixguy

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Just a note for those of you I have contact with.

Mom passed away yesterday about 5pm. She had lived with us full time since the first part of April, and had lived with us off and on for over 2 years, as her health required. She was 89. I'm glad that she never had to suffer the indignity of being in a nursing home.
 

loomixguy

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Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, it means more than any of you might know.

I woke up at 2 am this morning, and other than a catnap for 15 minutes at noon, been going straight until 10 tonight. Even though all her arrangements had been made in September, there is a LOT to do, moreso when there are three other siblings who have done and will do nothing whatsoever to help. I'm sure they will be lined up with their arms extended and their palms facing up when the time comes. :mad: :roll:

You find out how wonderful friends and neighbors can be at times like this.

Thanks again, from our house to yours.
 

leanin' H

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I sure feel for ya! Losing your Mom is never a easy thing. But just think about the reunion on the other side and the times she made ya grin. Hope there were lots of them. Take care.
 

hopalong

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You have my prayers Loomix>

We have my wife's mother living with us, sweet old gal getting alzheimer's, I fear for the day she leaves us, as she is one in a thousand.
 

loomixguy

Well-known member
I appreciate it, from all of you here. Mom was 89, and had over 45 floral arrangements at the service. That was quite a testament to the life she led and the people she touched along the way.

One word of caution.......no good deed goes unpunished. NONE of my 3 siblings spoke to me from the time of her death until now, not even at the funeral. I heard through the grapevine that the other 3 cracked the will open the afternoon of her funeral. That was Friday, and still not a word. I do have in my possession her purse, checkbooks, and various account numbers and numbers of life insurance policies, plus the keys to her safe deposit box. I guess if any show up demanding things they will have to let me see the will before anything is handed over. For now I am just going along like she is on vacation.

The BEST thing I did was to insist that she make her funeral arrangements in advance. That way there was nothing left for discussion or interpretation, it was what it was. It's a damn hard thing to do, but sure made things easier for me. Hoppy, take special note of this, please.

Thanks again.
 

Broke Cowboy

Well-known member
You done good.

The rough ride may be about to start - hang in there.

Others should take note of your comments and act now to prevent family troubles - we do not all die from old age.

Best thoughts to you and yours

BC
 

kris

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Loomix---you are in my thoughts and prayers!! I buried my pappy (legally my "step-dad", but I truly HATE that word....the man raised me and was DAD....period) a year ago September and the pain is still raw! The worst part was the day of the funeral when his biological/meth addicted/ex-con/convicted felon/homeless son approached me and DEMANDED to know about dad's house!!! I quietly and calmly told him that I had purchased the house from pappy 1 year prior to his death....for the grand total of $100!! He made such a horrific scene in front of our entire family (including my grieving grandmother) that a brother in law had to drag him outside and have a "come to Jesus meeting" with him!! hard enough losing a loved one without having to deal with those sort of people!! What you did in taking care of mom was the RIGHT thing!! Hold your head up proud!! You may not get your "reward" in this life, but you most certainly will in the next!!
 

Faster horses

Well-known member
Sorry to hear about your mother passing, Loomix guy.
I have lost both my parents now and I still feel like an orphan.

Good luck to you in dealing with your siblings. Seems like a
death in the family can bring out the worst in people.
Reminds us how NOT to be.
 
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