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OH, $hit. (Mom is moving)

Angus Cattle Shower

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Oh great.... first a bad rib and now mom is moving out... tomorrow. I don't know what to do, I can't cry for the younger one's sake, I can't crawl off, and I can't take it anymore. I don't know what to do. I tried as hard as I could, but nothing worked. I can't figure it out, and I cant figure life out. I already have more than I can handle, and now I have way too much. As much as I try, it wont work...
 

TimH

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ACS,
My parents divorced in 1971. That was back in the day when there was a bigtime stigma attached to divorce. To top it all off they were Catholic, for Christ's sake!!! :) It was tough on us kids. But we made it!!!
My youngest son is about your age. He is a fine young man, as I'm sure you are. I remember very well how I felt when I was your age. IT SUCKED!!
But guess what...... Things have a way of working themselves out.
Believe it or not!!!!
All I can tell you is, any trouble your parents have between the 2 of them HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!!!
I know that kids are brought up to believe that "adults" are wise but sometimes they can make mistakes.... and sometimes their decisions are for the best, in the long run.
It is not your fault. I'm very sure that both of your parents love you very much and if they could make whatever problems they may have go away, they would.
I lived through my parents splitting up, and I'm not near as smart as you are. Hang in there!!! :)
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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TimH said:
ACS,

My youngest son is about your age. He is a fine young man, as I'm sure you are. I remember very well how I felt when I was your age. IT SUCKED!!


But guess what...... Things have a way of working themselves out.
Believe it or not!!!!

I lived through my parents splitting up, and I'm not near as smart as you are. Hang in there!!! :)

The way it feels everyday is the same-struggling to keep my head above water, and I have no lifejacket.

It makes no difference if they work out-the good Lord will never give anyone more than they can take, and if they do, I will keep on doing what I am, but if they Don't, I won't know what to do with myself, much like now, except worse.

Beleive me-you are much smarter at my age-I know just enough to get through school, and with a 71 average, and going into highschool, I really knwo nothing. lol.

Thanks.
 

ranch hand

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Maybe with the split things will settle down. No one will be walking on eggshells everyday. I am not saying it is right or easy. But you will still have both your parents that love you, they might just be happier apart. Give it some time and prayers.
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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ranch hand said:
Maybe with the split things will settle down. No one will be walking on eggshells everyday. I am not saying it is right or easy. But you will still have both your parents that love you, they might just be happier apart. Give it some time and prayers.

I just can't figure it out...
 

Murgen

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Angus, I've been through this too at a younger age than yourself.

Advice is nice, but an ear bent your way is even better. So vent if you need to on Ranchers.

Be careful not to take sides no matter what. Stay neutral, and remember there always 3 sides to every story.

Hers
His
and reality
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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Murgen said:
Angus, I've been through this too at a younger age than yourself.

Advice is nice, but an ear bent your way is even better. So vent if you need to on Ranchers.

Be careful not to take sides no matter what. Stay neutral, and remember there always 3 sides to every story.

Hers
His
and reality

I have an 11 year old brother who is screaming cause he cant take it anymore, and a 7 year old sister crying on my lap. :sigh: I dont think ther is anything I can do anymore.
 

Murgen

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Hey bud, don't think it is all up to you. Other family members are great resources you chould look to. Any aunts or uncles close by?
 

Murgen

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Sometimes a call will help, just don't talk about what is going on between your parents. Just let them know how you and your siblings are feeling.
 

Angus Cattle Shower

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Murgen said:
Where bouts do you live, cross the river from Ontario?

I was born in Hull,

I live in central saskatchewan, Dad's aunt and that family live down there (st.thoomas area) There is one cousin down there that i really like. lol. Shes neat too-listens to what you have to say and always has somethingn t say to make you feel better.
 

Faster horses

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Call your cousin then, ACS. Talking to anyone will help.

What you are going through RIGHT NOW is probably the worst it
will be. It won't be easy living there without your mother, but it
won't be as bad as listening to a bunch of fighting all the time.

Will your grandmother be close by to help you on a daily basis?

Can you talk to your dad? If you can, perhaps you can tell him how
much this has hurt you and that all you kids need to spend more time
with him.

Good luck!! I really feel bad for all 3 of you kids.
Remember: IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. And it's not your responsibility.
Try not to carry that load. You will have to practice saying that
in order to believe it. So start right now.

I bet your brothers and sisters are glad they have you. You are strong,
you will be okay. It will take awhile, but you really will be.

Keep us posted. WE CARE!
 

Murgen

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Well, let me know if you make it down this way this summer, and you can ride with me for the day. You'll find it interesting for sure.
 
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