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The "change" is on the way

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This sat at 5 pm i will be getting married,so the countdown has kinda begun,will have a busy couple days now keeping the future wife calm about details,lol she is so worried about making it a perfect day,i told her she just has to show up and it will be, will be a change for me as i have never been married before,so any advice will be appreceaited,lol
 
Congratulations......and FH had some good advice there.

But....I would say, one of the main things is keep her informed on what your doin. Include her if she's interested. Take time to talk about your day, and she hers, dinner table is a good place for that. Dinner table eating is a very important part of keeping a family together.

And don't ever go to bed mad.
 
Congratulations!!

I would say try to live every day like you are still dating......don't become "the old married couple" who sits in front of the tv every night and never says two words to eachother. When your kids are grown and gone, it will be just you two again, so if you continue dating the whole time, you'll still like eachother when there's only eachother to stare at!
 
Advice?? Man, it's too late now!! :lol2:

Nope, just kidding!!

Try to discover what little things she likes and do them for her often enough that it's special but not so often that it wears out. You will need the rest of your life to find them all out!!!

Best wishes for a very special day and many fulfilling years together.
 
if she asks you want you would like for supper? "I don't know or it doesn't matter" are not actual dishes to make, its not that she really wants to make you something, she just needs an idea on something to make.
"thanks for supper, it was good" (even if its not! :wink: )
put your dishes in the dishwasher, just not in the sink full of cold yucky water
"you worked hard today, lets go out for supper" are wonderful words
put your clothes in the dirty hamper, not on the floor beside it

be kind to one another, (especially when working cattle!) forgive and forget as quickly as possible after an arguement does occur

have a happy day and wonderful rest of your life together...the wedding day is such a small part of your life together, and there is always something that goes wrong, but don't worry about it, 99% of the people there won't even know it wasn't planned..don't let it wreck your day!
Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
One of the best things Mr Lilly and I done after gettin married, was sit down and make a list of all the things our mother's cooked that we liked. Then it made it real easy to ask each one how they made it, etc. So that we didn't sit there wonderin what to fix.

Even better would be if each of your mom's, grandmothers etc write down recipes for you to put in a cook book. There's nothin wrong with askin for somethin you want as a weddin gift like that. I think that would make a really good gift to her from you too.
 
the_jersey_lilly_2000 said:
One of the best things Mr Lilly and I done after gettin married, was sit down and make a list of all the things our mother's cooked that we liked. Then it made it real easy to ask each one how they made it, etc. So that we didn't sit there wonderin what to fix.

Even better would be if each of your mom's, grandmothers etc write down recipes for you to put in a cook book. There's nothin wrong with askin for somethin you want as a weddin gift like that. I think that would make a really good gift to her from you too.
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That is a good idea...but then the words "It doesn't taste as good as Mom's" must NEVER be spoken!!!!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol:
 
Too much advice up top of this post - you will never remember it and you will never do it anyways.

Just take each day as it comes and be glad it was there.

BC
 
Yanuck said:
the_jersey_lilly_2000 said:
One of the best things Mr Lilly and I done after gettin married, was sit down and make a list of all the things our mother's cooked that we liked. Then it made it real easy to ask each one how they made it, etc. So that we didn't sit there wonderin what to fix.

Even better would be if each of your mom's, grandmothers etc write down recipes for you to put in a cook book. There's nothin wrong with askin for somethin you want as a weddin gift like that. I think that would make a really good gift to her from you too.
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That is a good idea...but then the words "It doesn't taste as good as Mom's" must NEVER be spoken!!!!!!!! EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol:
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this should be fairly easy ,i am not fussy about food,since my cooking will make a turkey buzzard puke :shock:
 
Congratulations

The most important words are "Yes Dear". Do not forget birthday, anniversity, and special holidays that just makes life easier.
DO NOT YELL AT HER when working cows or doing projects together it makes it easier to get repeat help and thank yous's are a must. If it has been a ruff day of working cattle or projects then a good dinner at a resturaunt is greatly appreciated.
 
Don't start her down the culture of expectation. If you decide to remember birthday's, anniversaries etc. Don't bring home stuff that you will have to top next year. Small homemade thoughtful gifts are more appreciated.

For every argument there must be a make up session. Works well when you are young as she won't mind a disagreement :wink: and when you are old she will never disagree with you. :shock:

Have your kids while you are young enough to act like one. You don't want to be using your pension to put them through college.
 
Yanuck and PATB....

We must have similarly trained, or not trained hubbys! The clothes are always on the floor in front of the hamper and I never have a day of working cows that I don't get yelled at! :lol: But being tough cowgirls, of course we can handle it! 8)

I thought of one more piece of advice.....

Never dwell on your spouse's faults. If you only let yourself see the good things they do and about them, the better you'll get along. Unless it's a dented in head from the frying pan. That's a hard one to overlook! That's why men always wear hats!
 
Mr Lilly usta leave his clothes on the floor....until one mornin he got up to go to work and had no clean one's to wear. He asked me, "Where's all my clothes?" I said.....they wern't in the hamper so they didn't get washed! I aint' your mama!" Never again have I had to tell him to put his dirty clothes in the hamper.

That was sometime durin the first five years of our marriage. So.....I think that was successful cuz he's been puttin em where they go for the last 20 years.
 

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