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Pride and Pain

burnt

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You wouldn't want it any other way. Eventually these little ones that come into our homes outgrow their shoes, their clothes, their games and everything else that little kids need and want.

And as long as they are healthy and motivated, that "out-growing" would include their dependency on Mom and Dad.

Oh, you know it's coming sooner or later. The day that first kid moves out of our home and into his/her own place. You might even think you look forward to it.

Well in a way, one does. Because it's a normal healthy part of life. And if we are really fortunate, the move-out happens in a planned, peaceful and productive manner!

So if this should be a positive occasion, what the heck is this ripping sensation in the middle of my chest when our girl passed this milestone today?

She met all the criterion listed above for the best way to have this happen. She is highly intelligent, well trained for her new nursing job, very dependable, very strong and positive in her outlook, everything a dad could want in his daughter. And most of all, she is a devout Christian girl who knows her Savior.

So I know she will be O.K. on her own. But geez why didn't the delivery room nurse warn me about this day when our first and only daughter came into this world 23 years ago? She just wrapped her in a blanket and handed her to us and said there you go, here's your girl!

Where did the years go?

She was right at my elbow for years, whether in the barn or the field. Lately though, as she was developing her independence more all the time, she would keep more distance between us. In fact, I even started referring to her as "The Hostile One"! :lol:

But now the distance in measured in miles rather than feelings or relationship as she has found a place closer to where she is working. We won't see that little silver Echo come zipping in our driveway nearly as often anymore. (I often wondered if this was the time she would go crashing right into the garage because she drove in so fast)

Man I'm proud of her.

But the pride is tinged with a fair stab of pain, too, the pain of separation. Even though I know she will be back from time to time. But this is different.

So here's the caption - The Pride and the Pain. But the picture is kinda blurry. As I'm sure many others have seen it too. And wouldn't have it any other way.

Pass me a Kleenex, please.
 
Ah, burnt. You're such a softie. It's good that you have all these
feelings. You have a special bond with your daughter. That's to
be admired. And you have such a great way of expressing your thoughts.

Think about it this way. What if she had something wrong with her
that she couldn't leave home and had to be there forever?
We have to give them roots and then give them wings. It's hard,
but not impossible. You'll be fine. Like you said,"the pain of separation"...
At least you know she and you have been blessed.
 
heres a box of em',,,,u may have to send em back later if i need em.i was 42 yrs old when our daughter was born and can relate to the bond.2 boys have left the nest,one is back already.

burnt,don't know your daughters name or i'd write a poem.but maybe someday about the pain,pride and separation.i wrote this tho when we brought KayAnn home.


She is our little girl
she is precious as can be
she gave us quite whirl
we named her KayAnn Renae Lafee

at 7lbs and 14 ounces
she is 20 inches long
like a ball that never bounces
she can do no wrong

with her pretty eyes
the color of blue
she tells no lies
her words are few

with long dark hair
and legs like mom
with dads little dare
she's fit for a prom

she's up all nite
we need a beeper
but she's worth the fight
we think she's a keeper!




written by richard
11 years ago
 
Great story, burnt, and one with which I can well relate. Our little girl will turn 24 on the 10th of June. She is planning to be home for the summer about then, after having spent the last quarter at college (since the 1st of April). She was AWOL for nearly four years, having gotten tangled up in a psuedo-Christian cult. Our gracious God, opened her eyes and she returned voluntarily to us in October of 2008. It has been wonderful since communication has been restored. Now with the aid of cell phones, we talk regularly and very much enjoy our close relationship. Life is good. :-)
 
I know that heart breaking feeling also, Burnt.

The first of five daughters pulled out of here a little over a year ago.

Soapweed, thanks for sharing that with us, Our daughter left under similar circumstances, turning her back on family, church freinds and school freinds. I havn't been able to talk to her since father's day of last year.

I sure miss her, but I know God has her back and is working in her life. One day we'll have a great celebration when she returns.

bart.

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I can only tell you that there's nothing like the bond between daddy and little girl. It's hard for us little girls to leave too, but so wonderful to know dad is still there with bear hugs and words of encouragement that only he knows how to give. Chin up and know you've done a heck of a job raising her! She'll never forget you and love you forever for that!
 

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