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[loomixguy]

Back again.

I'd like to thank those who pm'd sympathies and prayers. They meant more than you'll ever know.

I'll never understand why my brother waited until he was days fro passing to let the rest of us know, but that's how he wanted it, obviously.

And a word of advice for those of you who may have family burial plots. Long ago, my folks bought a mess of plots all together. When my Dad died 25 years ago, we discussed where the remainder of us would be placed when the time came. My mom and my brother who just passed agreed where he was to be, and we all agreed where me & my wife would be. Imagine my surprise when we get to the cemetery and there's the tent, hole, etc., WHERE I WAS TO BE BURIED! Back at the church, I asked my sister who decided where brother was to be buried. She answered that she and my other brother had picked it out...why? I then informed her that he was in the wrong spot, according to the verbal agreement he had with Mom. Mom's been gone for six years, so she couldn't say if there was an agreement or not. My sister then informed me that it should have been down in writing! I said it didn't matter now, but I thanked her for letting me be involved in the decision process...(which I wasn't).

Soooo...if you may one day end up in a similar situation, get it in writing who is to go where!

 

[Faster horses]

I'm sorry I didn't know your brother passed....condolences to your family from Montana....

As for the burial thing, I am an only child; my parents have provided burial plost for me and Mr. FH. However, his
family plots are in the same cemetary....with burial plots reserved for each of us. So that presents a dilemma....who is buried
where? One thing about it, I guess it won't matter to us in the long run...

 

[Brad S]

Sorry for your loss. You lost your brother, then lost respect for family members at a vulnerable time. i hope you have someone close to help put things in perspective. Losing your brother is the matter at hand - try not to let the other stuff distract you.

 

[loomixguy]

Boy that's true. When I was talking to the Boss on the phone the other night, telling her about it, she commented that we could always buy our own plots and put up a stone....then it would be pretty plain where we go when the day comes.

Its OK, Brad. I've already decided not to worry about it. Doesn't matter in the big scheme of things. When the closest sibling in age to you is 15 years older, I've been included in precious little as far as the older three are concerned. By the time I knew anything, they were grown and gone from home. Kind of a them vs. me thing. There are a couple of things coming down the pike, though, that they will be forced to deal with me on. They may not like the outcome, though. Karma has a way of setting things right.

 

[Brad S]

That "shouldda got it in writing" is specious. If you ask family for written docs, it's like calling someone a sob.

I lost my older brother 6 weeks ago; I didn't realize how much I leaned on him. Be along time getting better.

 

[loomixguy]

It torqued me for a few seconds, but I let it go. What disappoints me is the fact I wasn't even included in the decision process. Like I said previously, a them vs. me situation.

 

[Denny]

My brother's been gone about 4 years now sure miss him though. He was a great mechanic and always would help you fix stuff but he would make you do it and he'd always say think about it their just nuts and bolts. About a year ago I was trying to fix something and was having troubles when I felt this wave of air and the thought of think about it. I stopped looked over the situation and it was plain to see the solution once I Thought about it.

Sorry you lost your brother and as my wife's great grandpa used to say "God will Get'em in the end"

 

[gcreekrch]

Time heals Loomix, both the loss and the hurt that family can provide. Tomorrow is another day.

Prayers are with you and yours.