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Today I happened to go and see a play about school bullying. As I was watching the perfomance, I must say that for a moment, I felt uncomfortable as I realized how some kids can be mean to others, and don't realized how much pain they might be causing that particular individual... I been thinking about how many wonderful technological advances we have in the 21st Century, yet, many young kids and adults abuse these advaments to intimidate others.

I don't understand, why many or hopefully most of us don't tolerate bullying when we see it happening among our younger generations, yet, many adults seem to practice some type of "bullying" on the internet. I ask myself: how can we get rid of the roots leading to "bullying" if many children don't have adults at home or in their communties as role models?

What would Jesus and God say to us about the morals and values of our 21st Century?
 
I seen instances where schools talk about cracking down on bullying and then when there is a complaint they turn their head. There have been instances where they turned their head and then the kid had to defend himself. Then they will jump in and punish the one defending themselves against the bullies. In some of the cases it makes you wonder if the kids would have been better off if the schools hadn't got involved and let the kid take care of themselves.
The schools can sometimes screw everything up and then we trust them to educate the kids.
 
Larrry said:
I seen instances where schools talk about cracking down on bullying and then when there is a complaint they turn their head. There have been instances where they turned their head and then the kid had to defend himself. Then they will jump in and punish the one defending themselves against the bullies. In some of the cases it makes you wonder if the kids would have been better off if the schools hadn't got involved and let the kid take care of themselves.
The schools can sometimes screw everything up and then we trust them to educate the kids.
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I totally agree with you from a personal experience...
 
In a perfect world we wouldn't have bullying, but we don't. We need to teach our kids to open up to us if this happens. Since they won't we must keep a constant vigil on our children at school. We must make our schools be accountable just as we make our kids accountable.
It is just gut wrenching to see kids bullied and they feel trapped.
 
About ten yrs ago my son got into a bit of trouble at school, Came to find out that he was defending a little gal, he was a senior and the girl was a seventh grader. Some kids were giving this girl a bad time, he stepped in and took care of things himself. After i heard the story i told him that getting in trouble for doing good is acceptable. Maybe its a better idea for the kids to police thenselves .
 
Our whole family has dealt with being bullied.
We discovered defending ourselves is the best way to deal with it.

Telling does not solve a blasted thing.
 
When our daughter was young and rode the school bus (excellent place for being bullied)
a neighbor called us one evening to tell us what went on
on the school bus that day. I kind of braced myself, not knowing what was
coming.

Seems there was a little Mexican girl riding the bus, her dad worked for
one of the neighboring ranches. The kids were picking on the little girl
and our daughter went up and sat with her and put her arms around her.
I was pretty proud of our daugher who was little at the time herself.
This was before we even heard of the term 'bullied.'

Then our grandson got bullied on the school bus. Some kid just wouldn't
leave him alone. His folks told him to NEVER start a fight, but sometimes
you just have to finish one. Finally, our grandson poked the other kid in the nose.
When the bus stopped to let him off, he went running to the house saying,
"I did it. I did it!! I finally did it!!" The other kid NEVER bothered him again.

He went to a Basketball camp and that was ruined because of
a kid there that bullied him.

Last year on the 4th of July he was driving around in a strange town where
his relatives lived. Some boys in a beat-up old car kept following him all
over. Finally, he stopped, got out, went back where the boys had stopped
their car and asked, "Do you have a problem with me?" They both shook their
head and took off. They didn't follow him any more. He was always rather
timid, so he really had to overcome that to stand up to these bullying kids.
It seems like the bullies kind of know who is timid and who is not.

I hate bullying. It is so hard on the ones being bullied. There are instances
of kids killing themselves and other kids over being bullied. Wish there
was some satisfying answer to the problem.
 
Only On CBS2: OC Parents Offer $1,000 To Find Daughter's Bully
December 5, 2012 11:50 PM
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LOS ALAMITOS (CBS2) — Kaylie Castillo, 16, says she's been bullied to her breaking point.

The Los Alamitos High School student told CBS2's Stacey Butler Wednesday she was bullied all last year and the harassment started up again two days ago.

"I just want it to stop," said Kaylie, who's afraid to go to school.

Last year, someone allegedly vandalized her locker and left a mouse in it, wrote obscene things about her in the school bathroom and spray-painted "slut" on her driveway. The culprit also left excrement at her front door and covered her mom's car in baby powder. Then, promiscuous texts were sent to a boy at school as if it were coming from Kaylie's phone.

On Monday, Kaylie said, "it all started happening again."

Someone took a picture of Kaylie's face and placed it onto a pornographic photo of a woman. The photo was put inside all the lockers at her school.

"It made me feel really embarrassed. I didn't even want to go to school the rest of the day because I felt people were looking at me and laughing at me," she said.

The photo ended up on Instagram, Facebook's photo-sharing social network.

"Kids have lost their lives over this. It would break my heart, I'd be devastated," said the girl's mother, Tracie.

Kaylie's parents have filed a police report and asked the school to investigate the alleged harassment. Nevertheless, they say officials have not done enough to stop the bullying.

"Now, they're taking it further, and further, and further," said Kaylie's father, Guy. "It's getting worse, and now, all of a sudden, we are getting into pics and pornography. The school needs to step up and do more, they really do."

The girl's parents want the harassment to stop and are offering a $1,000 reward for information that leads to the person responsible.

"Whoever's doing this to my daughter should stop, just stop. Enough is enough," Tracie Castillo said.
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http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2012/12/05/only-on-cbs2-oc-parents-offer-1000-reward-to-find-16-year-old-daughters-bully/
 
Mike said:
Children are not born with compassion for others. They must be taught it. Teaching by example usually works best.
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Mike children are not born with lack of compassion or ill will in their hearts. Unfortunately it is all a learned behavior. Children develop at a faster rate in the first 4yrs of life than an other time. Example sure works best unfortunately, sometimes our example can be countered by the influence of peers. I am not sure how to teach your kids that it is ok to be the nicest kid in school. We have tried to teach our kids to love everyone unconditionally and equally. It seems like we have been successful so far with the first one, we will know how the other two do when they get to school. They do not go to day care and they learned that their are consequences for their actions, both good and bad, before they could walk or talk.
 
I Luv Herfrds said:
Our whole family has dealt with being bullied.
We discovered defending ourselves is the best way to deal with it.

Telling does not solve a blasted thing.
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Yes, it is sometimes it is the only and best way to stop a bully.
 

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