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Cowgirl Looking 4 Rich Rancher . . . needs help finding one

desertrose said:
I have to post something else im sorry but what you guys said is all so true if she isnt use to ranch life and being away from people and doing all those extra things she wont enjoy a rancher or a farmer for that fact you have to love the great outdoors and all that god has put in front of us cause theres nothing more challanging and rewarding then ranching ...If she has been married I would take my time getting married again I would enjoy your daughter while you can, you have the greatest gift you can have and dont need a guy to come between you and your daughter itll be the hardest thing you can do to her not just mentally but physically. Right now your daughter is at the age where your building her foundation she needs your support and love more then a guy does.....And also if you were married a long time and recently divorced you may fall into the same kinda relationship ...They told me it takes a yr for every yr you were married to be totally healed from the past.......
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Hey, thanks Desert Rose, you are kin to my beliefs :D I've been there and done that so I KNOW. Kids are most important-and especially after a divorce. They spend a very short time of their lives at home. I say finish raising the daughter and then start looking!
 
2blondecowgirls said:
"I will say that older single men may be too selfish or self-centered, so look for one who has and loves his kids or was married and loved his wife but is widowed. Seriously. That has been the biggest thing I have seen is immature older men who are incapable of caring for another person."

Unfortunately, that is what I have experienced too. I have poured my heart and soul into one man here in Oregon for the past 6 years, and never got invited to a family function or told that he loved me. What is the shame is that we are so damn good together--something he will never know because he won't take that step. Now I understand why his wife left--he is just too emotionally unavailable. What a shame.
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The shame is that you're daughter probably took lessons on how to relentlessly pursue a loser and how not to be happy on your own. Try devoting the next 7 years to teaching your daughter not to make the same mistakes...and probably stay single until she's gone off to college.
 
Cal said:
2blondecowgirls said:
"I will say that older single men may be too selfish or self-centered, so look for one who has and loves his kids or was married and loved his wife but is widowed. Seriously. That has been the biggest thing I have seen is immature older men who are incapable of caring for another person."

Unfortunately, that is what I have experienced too. I have poured my heart and soul into one man here in Oregon for the past 6 years, and never got invited to a family function or told that he loved me. What is the shame is that we are so damn good together--something he will never know because he won't take that step. Now I understand why his wife left--he is just too emotionally unavailable. What a shame.
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The shame is that you're daughter probably took lessons on how to relentlessly pursue a loser and how not to be happy on your own. Try devoting the next 7 years to teaching your daughter not to make the same mistakes...and probably stay single until she's gone off to college.
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Thanks, Cal, you're kin to my beliefs, also :o :)
 
No, I am not divorced.
Yes, I have raised my daughter ALONE for 11 years.
Yes, I am fricken secure in my own self--and in my own life--I don't "NEED" a man.
Stop second-guessing me!!!

WHAT IN THE HELL IS WRONG WITH WANTING SOMEONE (A MAN--NOT A LITTLE BOY IN A MAN'S BODY) WHO IS SIGNIFICANT IN YOUR LIFE?

As I have said from the beginning, this was a SINCERE inquiry on how to find someone who is in the HORSE business--a rancher. To hang with, to get to know, and that didn't mind spend some time with a single mom and her kid doing horse stuff--and that wanted a woman in his life. If you don't know anyone like that, then fine. If you do, thank you for your help.

My momma raised me that if you didn't have anything nice to say, then shut your trap!! Nuf said.
:-)
Anna
 
Sorry, but you have a daughter. Period. You should raise her and then go looking for a man after she is on to college or whatever. Be a mother to your daughter! I don't think you are really reading (listening) some of the posts here. We aren't attacking you, we are trying to help you rear your offspring the best way. We are the Ranchers.net family and we will gladly include yours. Just please, please, rear your own daughter until she has left the "nest" and then go looking!

This is in my very humble opinion

Hanta Yo
 
Hanta Yo said:
Northern Rancher said:
What's wrong with having a sense of humour-Nuff SAID!!!
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AND THE HUMOR IS............... :?: :?:
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Hanta Yo, the humor is that this thread is still going strong after 10 pages, 100+ replies, 4000+ views, and that I was up at this hour and decided to check in on this discussion before I go back to bed! :D :D :lol: :lol:
 
John Sd, I left the thread alone till this morning. I started reading it at 4:30. This is a humorous thread with lots of truths. I never realized how difficult ranching was till I got to know those on this board. So what has been said is correct. I know very few women that don't help in some form in the operations even if they work off the farm or ranch. It is a lifestyle compared to a love/hate relationship. Somedays I could throw this place as far as I could, but then I'd be the first in line to fetch it back. The lyric "We work HARD for our money" is so true!!!
 
I had to stop doing ranch work when i got divorced and miss it so much its a part of your life that cant ever get out of your blood...So much better then having a boss and working in a brick building...Also to blonde ...when your daughter isnt there you will know what it feels like not to have her in your life ...I hardly ever get to see my youngest daughter because i wasnt smart enough to take her with when i left for fear of my own life all i am saying is hang on to her be the mom she deserves its fine to have a guy in your life but you apparantly dont know what its like not to see your daughter for months on end ...and if you ever experience it, its like your heart being ripped out...All i am saying is be there for your daughter being a single mom that long and bringing a guy into the picture now is going to hurt her more then any words on here can tell you...Im not being mean or anything im just being truthful...
 
.It is absolutely amazing how you people judge others here. Why is it a man cant add to her and her daughters lives? Maybe a strong,funny,good living ,loving,caring man who is settled,can provide both being a husband and a father like figure in a young persons life. Do you all really think men are incapable of loving ?Many people have step fathers they rave about.Helping them to grow as a family and making up for a dead beat biological father.Stop telling others what YOU ALL think is right. Walk a mile in their boots first,when did this women ever say that she is not putting her daughters over all well being first? Many of you should read back what you wrote and witness the judgmental attitude you take.
 
First off...I'd say she's GOT THE POINT by now...if not...well then she's a big girl and can live with her own decisions.


So I wish 2BC girls the best! BE CAREFUL!
 
Bob she ASKED for help and everyone gave thier opionion.
I gave MINE based on MY mile with an 11 year old daughter and being over 40 (43).
I never said stay away from men...no I said, she had stars in her eyes in regard to being eye candy for a rancher.
I have people telling me to slow down and to get rid of the man in my life, wait till Kaitlyn is grown and gone. My belief is she needs a male role model to help her finish growing. This is where she determines the type of man she will marry. Her father and grandfather are 1000 miles away. She has an adopted grandfather here who is alot like her grandfather in NC.
Now if I wait the number of years I was married to look again .....I will be 61. I am using the year I LEFT NC to start over since it was like we never divorced till then. By then Kaitlyn will have finished college and gotten married herself. So am I to wait that long?
I have also seen first hand what a jelous 11 year old girl can do when she finds she likes the man in your life. Her daughter may be the perfect preteen BUT preteens will fool you and all of a sudden you have a raging full blown teen on your hands. Do I need to give details or have you seen first hand a teenager? If anyone tells you thier teen has NEVER acted out they are lieing.:roll:
Yes I will say there are some on here who are judgemental and can be cruel in thier opionion but some do offer good advice and give you the other side of an issue. unfortunitly you have to read the one who are calise and cruel and only want to feel bigger and better by cutting some unseen person down. Most times it worth it.:?

Desertrose I feel your pain. I too left my son in NC. Mine was not out of fear but, his choice. No matter its still a loss. Sending you hugs and understanding and many prayers.

wondering outloud ......"nuff said" hmmm ????
 
feeder said:
John Sd, I left the thread alone till this morning. I started reading it at 4:30. This is a humorous thread with lots of truths. I never realized how difficult ranching was till I got to know those on this board. So what has been said is correct. I know very few women that don't help in some form in the operations even if they work off the farm or ranch. It is a lifestyle compared to a love/hate relationship. Somedays I could throw this place as far as I could, but then I'd be the first in line to fetch it back. The lyric "We work HARD for our money" is so true!!!
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Yes, feeder, most all of us work very hard for our money. I think you could get most farm and ranch men to admit they couldn't do it without the women in their lives. Even if the woman doesn't work in the corral or the hayfield she is still there pitching in where she can, taking care of the kids and probably holding down a job in town that buys the groceries and provides the family insurance or other needed benefits.

As a single guy even I can see the value of a good woman who is a full and equal partner is priceless. OTOH, on how to find a woman like that, I ain't got a clue. And at this point in my life finding a woman sure ain't at the top of my "to do" list! :D I've seen too many relationships wrecked, seemingly for no good reason, where two good people just can't seem to get along anymore. Life is strange.
 
In the time I have had my daughter--11 years now--I have "dated" 2 men. The last one on-and-off-again for the last 6. Neither of which I lived with--I have always supported myself and her on my own.

She loved the first one (for 2 years) as if he was her dad, but he enjoyed being an absent dad for the most part and spending weekends with her--doing the fun stuff rather than the drudgery of homework and house chores. She loved and adored the last one and wished he was her dad. He has for the most part been a great role model, but she has tired (as so have I) that he doesn't want anything permanent and " to make US a family."

That may all change when she gets more into the teen stage, but for the most part I think I have a pretty damn terrific kid that wants to see her mom with someone and share in having that company around--especially with horses.
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Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.....


I am a cattleman, slight difference in the rancher terminology.

I don't own a horse...thank goodness, but understand those that use them in their day to day operations.

I know several horsepeople.

Again a slight difference in terminology.

I know horsepeople that are definately not ranchers, or cattlepeople.

The whole rodeo, team roping deal is a seperate social venue, I know no real ranchers that have the time to follow the whole "horsepeople" way of life. Some try to do both, but usually either lose the ranch or drop out of the horse stuff.

I know a few that raise horses to supply the "horsepeople", that is a different animal all togther.

In my opinion, looking for a good father figure in the "horsepeople" arena is a lost cause. Rancher types and cowmen would make excellent fathers, but most already have their plates full.
 
Jason said:
Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.....


I am a cattleman, slight difference in the rancher terminology.

I don't own a horse...thank goodness, but understand those that use them in their day to day operations.

I know several horsepeople.

Again a slight difference in terminology.

I know horsepeople that are definately not ranchers, or cattlepeople.

The whole rodeo, team roping deal is a seperate social venue, I know no real ranchers that have the time to follow the whole "horsepeople" way of life. Some try to do both, but usually either lose the ranch or drop out of the horse stuff.

I know a few that raise horses to supply the "horsepeople", that is a different animal all togther.

In my opinion, looking for a good father figure in the "horsepeople" arena is a lost cause. Rancher types and cowmen would make excellent fathers, but most already have their plates full.
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Jase,

WOW! You DO have a head on your shoulders :shock:

Just kidding. I agree with your comment totally. There is rancher in these parts who spends a lot of time roping. I don't know how he gets his work done.
 

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